These are a few ways you can catch the attention of any man you are keen on and they are really easy!
1) When he is talking, give him your full attention. You can probably lean slightly towards him as well. Smile and nod at times to show that you are listening. Even if he is talking to a few people, he will notice how attentive and interested you are in what he is saying.
2) Look into his eyes when talking to him. Do not be afraid of eye contact, but draw the line at staring as that will make him feel uncomfortable! Instead linger your gaze for a second longer than usual at times when you talk to him, and then look away at another part of his face. This flirtatious move is meant to show him that you are attracted to him and creates a moment of intimacy between the both of you at that instant.
3) When you are both sitting opposite each other, toss your hair and play with it gently. Touch yourself subtly on the face, neck, chest, arms, etc. This is meant to make him notice you more and is a very obvious way of telling him that you are hoping he will make the next move!
4) Touch him intentionally sometimes, but make it look unintentional. You can touch his hand or arm for a second when you are speaking or gesturing a point. Make it quick, gentle and casual so that he does not feel its obtrusive. Men will always notice women who touch them, especially if it's the first few times, as they will be surprised at how comfortable you are with them. Grab his arm when you are crossing the road with him and let go when you reach the other side. It will excite him and end so fast that he has no time to react!
5) Wear outfits that reveal a bit more skin when you are out with him especially. Men are visual creatures and they feel flattered if you bother to dress up for them. Sexy does not mean distasteful though. Stop short of wearing clothes which makes you look like someone from a red-light district! You can show more skin with a low back top, a shorter skirt or heels with peeping toes. Be creative and not cheap!
6) Whisper to him at times. This works especially well in places where it is noisy. When you want to tell him something, ask him to get close to you and whisper into his ear. As you speak, the warm air you breathe creates such an intimate moment between the both of you. It is a very powerful and easy way to get his adrenalin pumping!
7) Look at him and be obvious about it. Of course, there are many places you can look at; I'm not referring to where you might be thinking! The best way you can check him out is to sweep your gaze across his body. The trick is to get him to notice that you are looking while talking, but return your attention to his face quickly and continue your conversation like it never happened. I'm sure he is dying to ask what you might be looking at, and this is because he is really flattered at you checking him out!
Well, these seductive moves work on almost any man, if they are intelligent enough to read your message. Try them out on the man you are attracted to now. If he has no idea why you are doing all these, maybe its time you give him a miss and move on to someone else! Good luck.
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Are Me and My Partner Compatible? 5 Questions You Can Ask to Check Your Compatibility
These are questions you might ask yourself if you are currently dating. By reviewing your relationship from time to time, you will know if both of you are able to have a happy future together.
1) Do you have the same goals in life? Do you have the same plans to how the relationship would go?
For example, if you are career minded, but he would like you to focus more on the family after marriage, would you be able to adapt to it or come to a compromise? If you look forward to working overseas, but she hates having to deal with a long-distance relationship, do you think it would work long-term? There are many questions both of you have to ask each other. If there is a major disagreement on a certain issue and both of you hang on to the relationship hoping the other person would change his or her mind, time is lost. Even if you avoid talking about the issue, you will not be able to come to a solution. You have to share your thoughts with each other and work out your goals together if you would like to move on to the next phase of your relationship.
2) Are you both on the same "wavelength"?
Communication between partners is very crucial in a relationship. If you find yourself often misunderstood by your partner, you will find it a chore to talk to each other. It is important to feel that you are on the same "wavelength" with your partner, be it just a casual chat or serious discussion. It takes two hands to clap, and if your other half is able to connect to what you are trying to say, you will look forward to exchanging ideas and responses with each other. Sometimes, we wonder why couples are able to finish off each other's sentences when they talk. Well, that is really a fine example of knowing each other inside out and this kind of relationship often lasts a lot longer.
3) How about your take on bread and butter issues?
Money is often one of the most common things couple fight about. Issues about who's making the money, not making enough money, how to spend the money, etc, often crop up in a relationship. There is a Chinese saying that says "Money hurts relationships" and that is very true. If both of you are always arguing about financial issues, you are financially incompatible and these disputes create rifts in your relationship. You will not be happy even if you get married as these bread and butter problems will always be around. Unless both of you are willing to work things out early in the relationship.
4) Do you share the same interests? Or at least some of them?
Everybody is different. Do not expect your partner to like all the things that you enjoy doing, but if both of you can come to a compromise about how time can be spent, you are still considered compatible. For example, if your idea of de-stressing is to go out for shopping therapy, your partner may not like the thought of tagging along and following you around. Similarly, his idea of chilling out at home playing his video games may not excite you. But if both of you are willing to take turns to give in to each other's activities, your relationship can still work out. To find a partner who shares exactly your same interests is rare, so we should look at the big picture and give each other the space when necessary.
5) Are you compatible in culture and religion?
The more similar you are, usually the more compatible your match will be. If you are a staunch Christian, but your partner is a devout Buddhist or Muslim, it may become too difficult later on in the relationship even if you do not see the problems arising now. If both of you are very firm in your beliefs, it is never possible to change each other's mind, so do take a second thought about the relationship in the long-term. If you are of different races, sometimes you may meet family objections and pressure as well. But if both of you are willing to go through it together, compatibility is not determined by others, but yourselves. There are many couples who have overcome these obstacles and are much happier than those of similar culture and religion!
These are just 5 of the compatibility questions you can ask yourself. Whether you and your partner are compatible to each other depends on the similarities that bring you two together and your willingness as a couple to work out any kinks to the differences.
I wish you success in dating and love!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
1) Do you have the same goals in life? Do you have the same plans to how the relationship would go?
For example, if you are career minded, but he would like you to focus more on the family after marriage, would you be able to adapt to it or come to a compromise? If you look forward to working overseas, but she hates having to deal with a long-distance relationship, do you think it would work long-term? There are many questions both of you have to ask each other. If there is a major disagreement on a certain issue and both of you hang on to the relationship hoping the other person would change his or her mind, time is lost. Even if you avoid talking about the issue, you will not be able to come to a solution. You have to share your thoughts with each other and work out your goals together if you would like to move on to the next phase of your relationship.
2) Are you both on the same "wavelength"?
Communication between partners is very crucial in a relationship. If you find yourself often misunderstood by your partner, you will find it a chore to talk to each other. It is important to feel that you are on the same "wavelength" with your partner, be it just a casual chat or serious discussion. It takes two hands to clap, and if your other half is able to connect to what you are trying to say, you will look forward to exchanging ideas and responses with each other. Sometimes, we wonder why couples are able to finish off each other's sentences when they talk. Well, that is really a fine example of knowing each other inside out and this kind of relationship often lasts a lot longer.
3) How about your take on bread and butter issues?
Money is often one of the most common things couple fight about. Issues about who's making the money, not making enough money, how to spend the money, etc, often crop up in a relationship. There is a Chinese saying that says "Money hurts relationships" and that is very true. If both of you are always arguing about financial issues, you are financially incompatible and these disputes create rifts in your relationship. You will not be happy even if you get married as these bread and butter problems will always be around. Unless both of you are willing to work things out early in the relationship.
4) Do you share the same interests? Or at least some of them?
Everybody is different. Do not expect your partner to like all the things that you enjoy doing, but if both of you can come to a compromise about how time can be spent, you are still considered compatible. For example, if your idea of de-stressing is to go out for shopping therapy, your partner may not like the thought of tagging along and following you around. Similarly, his idea of chilling out at home playing his video games may not excite you. But if both of you are willing to take turns to give in to each other's activities, your relationship can still work out. To find a partner who shares exactly your same interests is rare, so we should look at the big picture and give each other the space when necessary.
5) Are you compatible in culture and religion?
The more similar you are, usually the more compatible your match will be. If you are a staunch Christian, but your partner is a devout Buddhist or Muslim, it may become too difficult later on in the relationship even if you do not see the problems arising now. If both of you are very firm in your beliefs, it is never possible to change each other's mind, so do take a second thought about the relationship in the long-term. If you are of different races, sometimes you may meet family objections and pressure as well. But if both of you are willing to go through it together, compatibility is not determined by others, but yourselves. There are many couples who have overcome these obstacles and are much happier than those of similar culture and religion!
These are just 5 of the compatibility questions you can ask yourself. Whether you and your partner are compatible to each other depends on the similarities that bring you two together and your willingness as a couple to work out any kinks to the differences.
I wish you success in dating and love!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
How To Be Successful In Online Dating
These are a few rules you should observe when participating in online dating. If you are able to keep to these guidelines, your chances of success will be much higher!
1) Find a suitable online dating site
There are many online dating sites in the market, but they usually cater to different categories of people. The larger sites may cater more broadly to a general audience, but there are also those that are unique to the baby boomer generation or older seniors only. Some online dating sites also cater specifically to people of other ethnic or cultural community. Before you join any, check out the type of sites that would attract members who are in line with your interests and age group. Don't join every dating site blindly with the hope that you will get more responses. By being more selective, you would most likely to be able to meet someone who is more compatible to your requirements.
Well, if you are not getting any positive response from your current site, or you might be attracting people whom you are not keen on, you may have joined one that may not be suitable for you. Try another different site and you may get different results!
2) Be honest in your profile
Some people find that when they finally meet the person they have been writing to, the person turns out to be totally opposite of what they expect! When creating an online profile, it can get quite tempting to juice up our own image. But this is not the recommended thing to do. When the person you are writing to meets you for the first time and realises you are someone not even close to your own profile, I bet that will be the last time you hear of him. Do not waste somebody else's time and of course your own. You wouldn't want to know someone who is attracted to the false image you create, and not your true self right? Be as honest as you can in your profile and I'm sure you will attract people who are more sincere in being your friend.
3) Put your best forward in your profile
Make the best out of the profile that describes you. Take a pleasant looking photo, and remember to at least smile in the photo. Treat your profile like your personal advertisement. Write positive things about yourself, how you look at issues, what you enjoy doing, etc. Do not attempt to brag or boast stuff that you are not capable of. Keep your profile true to yourself. This is your first point of contact with any potential friend. If they feel comfortable after reading your profile, they will consider writing to you.
4) Take the initiative to make the move
Most people write to each other for a while before they decide to meet each other. Well, if you wish to improve the odds of finding someone fast, set up a date once you meet someone whom you think you may like and can click with. Make it a casual date at a place where both of you have the opportunity to talk and know each other better. First impressions tell a lot about the person and are only possible to find out when you meet each other face to face.
5) Improve your odds of meeting someone
Take the initiative to start writing to someone whom may interest you as early as you can. Do not just collect a whole lot of profiles and continue shopping for more, but make the mistake of not writing first. Waiting for someone to write to you may take some time, so why not take the first step and improve your chances of meeting someone new? You do not need to write a lot, just a few sentences of self-introduction will do. Do not worry if they don't write back, but continue writing to new profiles. This will improve your odds of meeting someone eventually.
It is always possible to find true love through online dating. Your special someone may be across the globe or just across the street, but your paths do not meet till you find each other online. Well, even if you do not find a love match, you may meet people who make really great pals or compatible business partners. There is nothing to lose really, why not keep your options open?
Authored By:
Angela Tay
1) Find a suitable online dating site
There are many online dating sites in the market, but they usually cater to different categories of people. The larger sites may cater more broadly to a general audience, but there are also those that are unique to the baby boomer generation or older seniors only. Some online dating sites also cater specifically to people of other ethnic or cultural community. Before you join any, check out the type of sites that would attract members who are in line with your interests and age group. Don't join every dating site blindly with the hope that you will get more responses. By being more selective, you would most likely to be able to meet someone who is more compatible to your requirements.
Well, if you are not getting any positive response from your current site, or you might be attracting people whom you are not keen on, you may have joined one that may not be suitable for you. Try another different site and you may get different results!
2) Be honest in your profile
Some people find that when they finally meet the person they have been writing to, the person turns out to be totally opposite of what they expect! When creating an online profile, it can get quite tempting to juice up our own image. But this is not the recommended thing to do. When the person you are writing to meets you for the first time and realises you are someone not even close to your own profile, I bet that will be the last time you hear of him. Do not waste somebody else's time and of course your own. You wouldn't want to know someone who is attracted to the false image you create, and not your true self right? Be as honest as you can in your profile and I'm sure you will attract people who are more sincere in being your friend.
3) Put your best forward in your profile
Make the best out of the profile that describes you. Take a pleasant looking photo, and remember to at least smile in the photo. Treat your profile like your personal advertisement. Write positive things about yourself, how you look at issues, what you enjoy doing, etc. Do not attempt to brag or boast stuff that you are not capable of. Keep your profile true to yourself. This is your first point of contact with any potential friend. If they feel comfortable after reading your profile, they will consider writing to you.
4) Take the initiative to make the move
Most people write to each other for a while before they decide to meet each other. Well, if you wish to improve the odds of finding someone fast, set up a date once you meet someone whom you think you may like and can click with. Make it a casual date at a place where both of you have the opportunity to talk and know each other better. First impressions tell a lot about the person and are only possible to find out when you meet each other face to face.
5) Improve your odds of meeting someone
Take the initiative to start writing to someone whom may interest you as early as you can. Do not just collect a whole lot of profiles and continue shopping for more, but make the mistake of not writing first. Waiting for someone to write to you may take some time, so why not take the first step and improve your chances of meeting someone new? You do not need to write a lot, just a few sentences of self-introduction will do. Do not worry if they don't write back, but continue writing to new profiles. This will improve your odds of meeting someone eventually.
It is always possible to find true love through online dating. Your special someone may be across the globe or just across the street, but your paths do not meet till you find each other online. Well, even if you do not find a love match, you may meet people who make really great pals or compatible business partners. There is nothing to lose really, why not keep your options open?
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
8 Easy & Effective Flirting Tips For Girls
When someone catches your eye, the most effective way of letting him know is to flirt with him. But do it in a subtle way such that the man you are attracted to will not think you are one desperate woman. The most effective way of flirting is to capture his attention , yet move your attention away such that you get him wanting for more.
These are 8 tips that you can use in your flirting techniques. Try them out and see what works best for your man!
1) Have a positive attitude. Be enthusiastic about life. Men love women who have a happy outlook. If you have a sunny personality by nature, it is your natural flirting weapon as your optimism will rub off on them in some way.
2) When you meet new people, give your widest smile! A sincere smile draws attention. At least they know if they talk to you, you won't bite!
3) Make eye contact. This is a very powerful flirting technique. Look exclusively into the eyes of the person you are attracted to and make sure they notice. When their eyes make contact with yours, smile and pretend to look at something else for a few seconds before returning your gaze again. Give your most playful look. Practise in front of the mirror till you get it right.
4) When making small talk, focus on light-hearted topics, especially if you are talking to the person for the first time. Pay attention to what they say, don't let them do all the talking, but respond and initiate new topics when necessary. Keep the conversation flowing and natural.
5) Listen when it's necessary. Do not interrupt midway with every sentence he says. Respond only when he has completed his point. He will find it a joy to talk to you as you are able to give him the attention he needs.
6) Make use of flirting "props". If you are in for the flirting mood anytime, always carry something that can make great conversation openers. It could be an unusual handbag, an interesting book, or a unique piece of jewelery. This provides opportunities and reasons for someone to start talking to you.
7) Smell good. If you do not put on fancy fragrances, at least smell fresh! There is nothing sexier than a woman who smells nice. Work on areas like your hair and your breath as well. Sometimes, a great smell is known to stop men in their tracks just to look at the woman who just walked past them. The scent of a woman is a powerful, but overlooked flirting technique, use it in your favour.
8) Use your body language effectively. Touching yourself on the lips, neck or twirling your hair, sends signals to a man that you might be interested in him. Tapping him lightly or playfully when talking to him is also a sign that you feel comfortable with him.
Flirting can be pretty harmless. Even friends flirt with each other just for fun. Practice makes perfect, once you start flirting, you will just get better in no time!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
These are 8 tips that you can use in your flirting techniques. Try them out and see what works best for your man!
1) Have a positive attitude. Be enthusiastic about life. Men love women who have a happy outlook. If you have a sunny personality by nature, it is your natural flirting weapon as your optimism will rub off on them in some way.
2) When you meet new people, give your widest smile! A sincere smile draws attention. At least they know if they talk to you, you won't bite!
3) Make eye contact. This is a very powerful flirting technique. Look exclusively into the eyes of the person you are attracted to and make sure they notice. When their eyes make contact with yours, smile and pretend to look at something else for a few seconds before returning your gaze again. Give your most playful look. Practise in front of the mirror till you get it right.
4) When making small talk, focus on light-hearted topics, especially if you are talking to the person for the first time. Pay attention to what they say, don't let them do all the talking, but respond and initiate new topics when necessary. Keep the conversation flowing and natural.
5) Listen when it's necessary. Do not interrupt midway with every sentence he says. Respond only when he has completed his point. He will find it a joy to talk to you as you are able to give him the attention he needs.
6) Make use of flirting "props". If you are in for the flirting mood anytime, always carry something that can make great conversation openers. It could be an unusual handbag, an interesting book, or a unique piece of jewelery. This provides opportunities and reasons for someone to start talking to you.
7) Smell good. If you do not put on fancy fragrances, at least smell fresh! There is nothing sexier than a woman who smells nice. Work on areas like your hair and your breath as well. Sometimes, a great smell is known to stop men in their tracks just to look at the woman who just walked past them. The scent of a woman is a powerful, but overlooked flirting technique, use it in your favour.
8) Use your body language effectively. Touching yourself on the lips, neck or twirling your hair, sends signals to a man that you might be interested in him. Tapping him lightly or playfully when talking to him is also a sign that you feel comfortable with him.
Flirting can be pretty harmless. Even friends flirt with each other just for fun. Practice makes perfect, once you start flirting, you will just get better in no time!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Monday, November 10, 2008
Top 5 Fears That Are Stopping Men And Women From Getting Back Into The Dating Scene
For whatever reasons that you may be single again, it could be a long time since you last went out with someone new. Deep down, are these the fears that you might be facing and keeping to yourself?
#1 I just can't do it. I'll never meet someone again.
This is absolutely not true. There are many people out there looking for a connection as well. It largely depends on whether you take the initiative to get out and make know someone new. Do give yourself a chance as well as giving others a chance of knowing you. Just make sure you have given yourself enough time to heal before you go back out there, if you just had a break up. An unsuccessful relationship does not mean you will not be able to find someone again. It can be scary at first at meeting new people, but you should be much wiser and experienced now and should be able to avoid the mistakes you have made in the last relationship.
#2 I don't know where I can meet new people
If you have a small social circle, you can consider online dating to get out of your comfort zone. Especially if you are always busy at work or always hanging around with the same group of friends where everyone eligible is attached or married. Joining new hobby or networking groups can also give you the chance of meeting somebody new. Be proactive. If you meet someone whom you might be interested in, create your own chances of knowing them instead of playing the waiting game.
#3 I fear being rejected. I also fear having to reject someone I don't fancy.
Rejection is part and parcel of dating. Just remember that most of the time, it is not personal, it's just life's selection process! If you are rejected, it could be a blessing in disguise as the person you are keen on may not be the best for you. If you move on graciously, you might find someone who is more worthy of your love instead of hovering around the person trying to change his mind. If you have to reject someone, it could be a sticky issue to deal with in the beginning, but you are actually releasing this person to someone else who could appreciate him or her more. You are actually doing them a favour in telling them not to waste any more time or efforts on you.
#4 Women are only looking out for young hunks
Women are in the search for a relationship with men who can click with them. Looks does matter in the initial phase, but over time women want someone whom they can count on long term. Sometimes, you may find it strange why women would pick a middle-aged pot-bellied man over a handsome young hunk. It all boils down to how women feel comfortable and secure in your company. Women are also usually more attracted to average looking men who are financially stable and dependable, than good looking men who are always in and out of jobs.
#5 Men are only dating the young and hot babes
Men date all sorts of women, young and old, as long as they are attractive enough for them. Sometimes men like mature ladies for their intelligence, independence and their sex appeal. Some young girls of their age may be too childish and whiny to their liking. As long as a woman is attractive and well groomed, age is not a big issue with most men. What matters more is how well they can communicate and how well they can relate to you.
If you are hoarding these fears deep down in your heart, it's time you find ways of overcoming them. Only when you are able to release these fears, you are able to embrace the journey of getting back into the dating scene again. Give yourself a second chance of finding the special love of your life!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
#1 I just can't do it. I'll never meet someone again.
This is absolutely not true. There are many people out there looking for a connection as well. It largely depends on whether you take the initiative to get out and make know someone new. Do give yourself a chance as well as giving others a chance of knowing you. Just make sure you have given yourself enough time to heal before you go back out there, if you just had a break up. An unsuccessful relationship does not mean you will not be able to find someone again. It can be scary at first at meeting new people, but you should be much wiser and experienced now and should be able to avoid the mistakes you have made in the last relationship.
#2 I don't know where I can meet new people
If you have a small social circle, you can consider online dating to get out of your comfort zone. Especially if you are always busy at work or always hanging around with the same group of friends where everyone eligible is attached or married. Joining new hobby or networking groups can also give you the chance of meeting somebody new. Be proactive. If you meet someone whom you might be interested in, create your own chances of knowing them instead of playing the waiting game.
#3 I fear being rejected. I also fear having to reject someone I don't fancy.
Rejection is part and parcel of dating. Just remember that most of the time, it is not personal, it's just life's selection process! If you are rejected, it could be a blessing in disguise as the person you are keen on may not be the best for you. If you move on graciously, you might find someone who is more worthy of your love instead of hovering around the person trying to change his mind. If you have to reject someone, it could be a sticky issue to deal with in the beginning, but you are actually releasing this person to someone else who could appreciate him or her more. You are actually doing them a favour in telling them not to waste any more time or efforts on you.
#4 Women are only looking out for young hunks
Women are in the search for a relationship with men who can click with them. Looks does matter in the initial phase, but over time women want someone whom they can count on long term. Sometimes, you may find it strange why women would pick a middle-aged pot-bellied man over a handsome young hunk. It all boils down to how women feel comfortable and secure in your company. Women are also usually more attracted to average looking men who are financially stable and dependable, than good looking men who are always in and out of jobs.
#5 Men are only dating the young and hot babes
Men date all sorts of women, young and old, as long as they are attractive enough for them. Sometimes men like mature ladies for their intelligence, independence and their sex appeal. Some young girls of their age may be too childish and whiny to their liking. As long as a woman is attractive and well groomed, age is not a big issue with most men. What matters more is how well they can communicate and how well they can relate to you.
If you are hoarding these fears deep down in your heart, it's time you find ways of overcoming them. Only when you are able to release these fears, you are able to embrace the journey of getting back into the dating scene again. Give yourself a second chance of finding the special love of your life!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Friday, October 24, 2008
How to Know If Your Relationship is Over - Is Your Man Showing These Signs?
Here are 7 giveaway signs that your man is probably going to say goodbye to you soon. Do they sound really familiar in your relationship?
1) The communication between both of you breaks down or become awkward
He seems to call less frequently than before and each conversation becomes shorter and punctuated with monosyllabic words. He seldom joke with you or share intimate details about his life anymore. When he meets you on a date, he seems more interested in punching messages on his mobile or playing games on his PSP. Things gradually become cold and awkward as you find it difficult to talk to him anymore.
2) You are never included in his activities anymore
Previously, he may ask you to go along when he goes to the matches with his buddies. He may bring you to party invitations as a couple. Now he prefers to go without you. He also refers to "I" more often than "we" when he is making his plans. Isn't it plain obvious how much he wants his life back as a single again?
3) Everything you do just turns him off
You just can't do anything right in front of him. He shows you looks of disgust and irritation at everything you do and everything you say. He provokes you and makes you angry purposely most of the time. He may also demean you and people around you, like your friends.
4) There is no intimacy anymore
He stops being lovey-dovey to you over time. All the displays of affection like kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc, disappears. The previous connection you feel so strongly is just not there anymore.
5) He shuns the topic whenever it is regarding future plans
You ask him to go along with you to your friend's wedding next month and he mumbles an excuse that he may have something on. He can't even promise you a day he is free in the coming weekend. He may be trying to cut down contact with you slowly, hoping you will give up yourself.
6) He totally "forgets" your birthday or other important dates
Enough said about this. After celebrating your birthday last year, how could he have forgotten this time? Even if he is very busy at work, a phone call to wish you "happy birthday" will not take too much time?
7) He does not look at you direct in the eye when talking to you
This could mean two things:
a) everything else is more interesting and attractive than you, or
b) he could probably have something to hide from you.
This is negative body language and doesn't bode well for a relationship. If you find these signs in your existing relationship, maybe it's time to move on even if your guy has not asked you to. Rather than doing the nasty work of ending the relationship, some men hope the woman will initiate the break up themselves, saving them from being labelled as the bad guy.
Women on the other hand, sometimes hang on to the relationship, hoping to make things better and trying harder to please their men. If your guy is behaving this way because he is going through a rough patch due to work or so, probably it's a temporary phase of his emotions and the relationship may be still worth salvaging. But if he is cheating on you, and expects you to pull the plug and exit yourself, there is no point in staying longer and hoping he will change his mind.
Authored By:
Angela Tay
1) The communication between both of you breaks down or become awkward
He seems to call less frequently than before and each conversation becomes shorter and punctuated with monosyllabic words. He seldom joke with you or share intimate details about his life anymore. When he meets you on a date, he seems more interested in punching messages on his mobile or playing games on his PSP. Things gradually become cold and awkward as you find it difficult to talk to him anymore.
2) You are never included in his activities anymore
Previously, he may ask you to go along when he goes to the matches with his buddies. He may bring you to party invitations as a couple. Now he prefers to go without you. He also refers to "I" more often than "we" when he is making his plans. Isn't it plain obvious how much he wants his life back as a single again?
3) Everything you do just turns him off
You just can't do anything right in front of him. He shows you looks of disgust and irritation at everything you do and everything you say. He provokes you and makes you angry purposely most of the time. He may also demean you and people around you, like your friends.
4) There is no intimacy anymore
He stops being lovey-dovey to you over time. All the displays of affection like kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc, disappears. The previous connection you feel so strongly is just not there anymore.
5) He shuns the topic whenever it is regarding future plans
You ask him to go along with you to your friend's wedding next month and he mumbles an excuse that he may have something on. He can't even promise you a day he is free in the coming weekend. He may be trying to cut down contact with you slowly, hoping you will give up yourself.
6) He totally "forgets" your birthday or other important dates
Enough said about this. After celebrating your birthday last year, how could he have forgotten this time? Even if he is very busy at work, a phone call to wish you "happy birthday" will not take too much time?
7) He does not look at you direct in the eye when talking to you
This could mean two things:
a) everything else is more interesting and attractive than you, or
b) he could probably have something to hide from you.
This is negative body language and doesn't bode well for a relationship. If you find these signs in your existing relationship, maybe it's time to move on even if your guy has not asked you to. Rather than doing the nasty work of ending the relationship, some men hope the woman will initiate the break up themselves, saving them from being labelled as the bad guy.
Women on the other hand, sometimes hang on to the relationship, hoping to make things better and trying harder to please their men. If your guy is behaving this way because he is going through a rough patch due to work or so, probably it's a temporary phase of his emotions and the relationship may be still worth salvaging. But if he is cheating on you, and expects you to pull the plug and exit yourself, there is no point in staying longer and hoping he will change his mind.
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Case Study: How To Get Your Ex Back - The Magic Of Making Up
A real-life case study of how "The Magic Of Making Up" has helped many people with their relationship problems.
Will it be able to help you as well?
Sunday, October 5, 2008
How To Deal With Your Fear Of Rejection In Love And Dating
In the dating game, nobody likes to be rejected. When that happens, it makes one feel really down and the first thing that most people would do is to find fault with themselves. I fully understand how upsetting it can be when you finally plucked the courage to express how you feel, only to get an answer that flatly says "Sorry, you are rejected"!
That's why people who have experienced rejection in dating often feel uncomfortable to date again after their first few attempts. They lose confidence in themselves and breed negative thoughts about even starting any relationship. They might even suffer from low esteem eventually.
But if you look at it from another point of view, rejection is just a numbers game. Just like when you walk into a furniture store to buy a dining table, you may not set your eyes on the first one that you see. You will most likely walk around and compare the sizes and prices of different tables. You may also have a preference for a round table instead of a square one. See what I mean?
Rejection is often just a selection process. You rejected the square dining table and eventually bought the round one because it fits nicely into your dining area. For someone else though, the square one may be perfect for them! Same goes for the dating game. You may reject someone because they are not tall enough for you, but someone else may reject you because you are too tall for them!
Rejection is often not personal. It's wise to learn how to deal with it more positively. It is not an opportunity for self-pity, but rather be positive, reflect and self-examine on the reasons why you are rejected. Sometimes, the reasons do not lie with you, why make yourself sad over it! If you don't welcome rejection, you will tread on it over and over again subconsciously. But when you learn how to let go and move on, only then you will untie the knot in your heart and allow someone else to come in.
Handling rejection requires an immediate adjustment in attitude. If the person doesn't return your interest, you may feel depressed initially, but after a day, snap out of it and move on! Feeling sorry for yourself means you have succumbed to the fear of rejection, and defeated your goal of overcoming it.
Love and dating is a complex process. If it is not meant to be, respect the other person's wishes graciously. It's just part and parcel of life's selection process. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, it just means both of you are not meant to be a couple, that's all. Don't take rejections too personally but always deal with it rationally and you will be a much happier person.
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Monday, September 15, 2008
8 Types of Men to Avoid in Dating
These are the 8 types of men that you should forget about and run!
1) A possessive man. He wants you by his side every moment. He gets upset when you need to go out with your pals, even when you only do that once in a blue moon. He calls you up many times a day just to check where you are and what you are doing. He is almost driving you crazy with his possessive habits.
2) A man vainer than you. If he is obsessed with looking good and has more beauty and skin care products than you, doesn't it feel weird?
3) A man who seems exceptionally busy. You can't get hold of him, even by phone. He is not available most of the time. Whenever you call, he says he will call back. It is sufficient to believe that this man is either not very interested in you or he is seeing someone else too.
4) A man who is super stingy. Dating expenses can amount to quite a bit, and it's perfectly alright to go Dutch sometimes. But if this man works out your share of the bill for every meal that you eat or movie that you watch, it's a bit too much.
5) A man who refuse to grow up. If he can't keep any job for long and loves bumming around, while continually asking you for pocket money, how long can such a relationship sustain? Don't wait till he empties your pockets or gets you into debt.
6) A man who was the ex of your best friend. Worst scenario, if he is the father or current boyfriend. Stay away from the guys of those whom you cherish your relationship with. You may lose your friendship or kinship if things go wrong.
7) A man who thinks he is so much more superior to you. Even if he has elite education and a well-paid job, it does not mean he is always right! Dump him if he treats you condescendingly every time. You are entitled to your own opinions and decisions.
8) A man who is in a current relationship or marriage. Don't bank on the fact that he will leave his wife or girlfriend for you. Sometimes, he just wants to have the best of both worlds. After all, it's not a good idea to be someone's third party too.
In my opinion, deal with the heartbreak earlier and say goodbye to them before it gets too late!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
1) A possessive man. He wants you by his side every moment. He gets upset when you need to go out with your pals, even when you only do that once in a blue moon. He calls you up many times a day just to check where you are and what you are doing. He is almost driving you crazy with his possessive habits.
2) A man vainer than you. If he is obsessed with looking good and has more beauty and skin care products than you, doesn't it feel weird?
3) A man who seems exceptionally busy. You can't get hold of him, even by phone. He is not available most of the time. Whenever you call, he says he will call back. It is sufficient to believe that this man is either not very interested in you or he is seeing someone else too.
4) A man who is super stingy. Dating expenses can amount to quite a bit, and it's perfectly alright to go Dutch sometimes. But if this man works out your share of the bill for every meal that you eat or movie that you watch, it's a bit too much.
5) A man who refuse to grow up. If he can't keep any job for long and loves bumming around, while continually asking you for pocket money, how long can such a relationship sustain? Don't wait till he empties your pockets or gets you into debt.
6) A man who was the ex of your best friend. Worst scenario, if he is the father or current boyfriend. Stay away from the guys of those whom you cherish your relationship with. You may lose your friendship or kinship if things go wrong.
7) A man who thinks he is so much more superior to you. Even if he has elite education and a well-paid job, it does not mean he is always right! Dump him if he treats you condescendingly every time. You are entitled to your own opinions and decisions.
8) A man who is in a current relationship or marriage. Don't bank on the fact that he will leave his wife or girlfriend for you. Sometimes, he just wants to have the best of both worlds. After all, it's not a good idea to be someone's third party too.
In my opinion, deal with the heartbreak earlier and say goodbye to them before it gets too late!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Friday, September 5, 2008
7 Smart Tips To Survive A Blind Date
Been on a blind date before? It could be with someone your friend introduced, or someone you meet from an online dating website. Well gals, if you are going for one soon, these are seven tips on how you can survive the blind date, do bear them in mind!
1) Before even deciding whether to go for the date, make sure you find out the basics about the guy, especially if you know nothing about him at all. But if he asks you the same questions, do not tell him everything in detail. If he asks where you live, just mention the area or district but not your exact address. If he asks you where you are working, just let him know which area, but not your company name. This is to safeguard your interest in case he turns out to be a stalker when you are not keen on going out with him after your first date.
2) Make sure both of you meet at somewhere neutral and crowded. If he turns out to be a turn off, at least you can walk away and get lost easily in the crowd. You can also hop on any mode of transport easily, be it the subway or taxi, to get out of the place. Also, avoid choosing your favourite hangout place, because if you decide not to meet him again, he may go back to that place to find you if he has stalker habits.
3) Find your own mode of transport to your meeting destination. As long as you make your way there, there is no way of your date finding out where you live. If he offers to pick you up from home and you find it hard to reject, arrange for him to pick you up somewhere else instead. Just give him an excuse that you have to run some errands before meeting him. For the same reasons, insist on going home yourself. Do not let him send you home as he will know where you stay.
4) Remember not to leave your drinks or food unattended to prevent the opportunity of date rape drugs being put into them. Try to finish them before leaving for the toilet or making a phone call.
5) Do not leave your personal items with your date too, like your handbag or mobile phone, when you need to excuse yourself for a visit to the loo. There may be personal items like your ID in your handbag or the phone numbers of your family member and other details that you would not wish to share with him on a first date.
6) Offer to go Dutch in your expenses for the date, especially if you think you will not see him again after the first date. In this way, you are not obligated to return the favour of treating him to another meal or movie. But if you like him very much and would like to see him again, let him pay so that you have the excuse of telling him that you will pay the next time, thus setting yourself the second date in advance!
7) In your conversation, hint to your date that you have mentioned to your close pal that you are meeting him at the place where you are right now. It’s indeed wise to tell at least a friend of yours that you are going for a blind date and where you will be. Get her to call you about 1-2 hours into your arranged date appointment and find out how you are.
Well, a girl has got to be smart when it comes to dating, especially if it’s the first blind date. It’s wise to take some extra precautions in case you meet someone who is plain irritating or up to no good. After you meet him, you will at least have a first impression of how he is and you are able to decide whether to let down some of these inhibitions in the next few dates.
Authored By:
Angela Tay
1) Before even deciding whether to go for the date, make sure you find out the basics about the guy, especially if you know nothing about him at all. But if he asks you the same questions, do not tell him everything in detail. If he asks where you live, just mention the area or district but not your exact address. If he asks you where you are working, just let him know which area, but not your company name. This is to safeguard your interest in case he turns out to be a stalker when you are not keen on going out with him after your first date.
2) Make sure both of you meet at somewhere neutral and crowded. If he turns out to be a turn off, at least you can walk away and get lost easily in the crowd. You can also hop on any mode of transport easily, be it the subway or taxi, to get out of the place. Also, avoid choosing your favourite hangout place, because if you decide not to meet him again, he may go back to that place to find you if he has stalker habits.
3) Find your own mode of transport to your meeting destination. As long as you make your way there, there is no way of your date finding out where you live. If he offers to pick you up from home and you find it hard to reject, arrange for him to pick you up somewhere else instead. Just give him an excuse that you have to run some errands before meeting him. For the same reasons, insist on going home yourself. Do not let him send you home as he will know where you stay.
4) Remember not to leave your drinks or food unattended to prevent the opportunity of date rape drugs being put into them. Try to finish them before leaving for the toilet or making a phone call.
5) Do not leave your personal items with your date too, like your handbag or mobile phone, when you need to excuse yourself for a visit to the loo. There may be personal items like your ID in your handbag or the phone numbers of your family member and other details that you would not wish to share with him on a first date.
6) Offer to go Dutch in your expenses for the date, especially if you think you will not see him again after the first date. In this way, you are not obligated to return the favour of treating him to another meal or movie. But if you like him very much and would like to see him again, let him pay so that you have the excuse of telling him that you will pay the next time, thus setting yourself the second date in advance!
7) In your conversation, hint to your date that you have mentioned to your close pal that you are meeting him at the place where you are right now. It’s indeed wise to tell at least a friend of yours that you are going for a blind date and where you will be. Get her to call you about 1-2 hours into your arranged date appointment and find out how you are.
Well, a girl has got to be smart when it comes to dating, especially if it’s the first blind date. It’s wise to take some extra precautions in case you meet someone who is plain irritating or up to no good. After you meet him, you will at least have a first impression of how he is and you are able to decide whether to let down some of these inhibitions in the next few dates.
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Signs That He Is Serious About You
10 signs to tell that he is serious about you!
1) He seeks your opinion in everything from minor decisions to major ones
It could be something as simple as buying a tie to match his shirt. Or major ones like what car he should buy. It shows that he values your opinions and thinks that you have great judgement and insight as well.
2) He wants you to meet his family, friends and everybody else
He is serious in making you part of his social circle and does not see you as just another casual date when he wants you to meet his family.
3) He spends a lot of time together with you
If he is not genuinely interested in you, would he spend time with you rather than go for his favourite soccer match with his buddies?
4) He does not show signs that he is terrified when you mention something happening in a year or two
It shows that he is serious about the relationship he has with you. He can see himself being with you even two years later.
5) He calls you many times a day, but does not admit he misses you
When he calls you, he may find an excuse to do so, like asking you what you are doing currently, finding out what you have eaten for dinner, but never saying the words "I miss hearing your voice, that's why I called".
6) He remembers your favourite food and brings it to you by surprise
You probably casually mentioned that you love the brownie from that café only once, but he remembered and brought it to you without you asking for it. If he is not serious about you, would he have remembered what you say to such detail?
7) He lets you choose the restaurants you want to go and the movies you want to watch
Even if he does not like spicy stuff, but you love curry to bits, he will accompany you and even treat you to a meal at a nice Indian restaurant. How sweet can it get? If he does not treat you seriously, why would he bother to cater to you?
8) He can't wait to tell you what happened in the day
Every night he updates you with how he spent his day, without you asking first. He finds it a joy sharing these intimate details with you. When he hears a new joke, he can't wait to call you immediately and make you laugh.
9) He is willing to share details of his finances with you
The topic of finances can be quite sensitive and is usually not something that is openly shared, even with friends. If he is willing to tell you, he probably treats you more than a casual friend!
10) He rushes to your side upon hearing that you are sick
Even if it is really late at night and he has an important meeting the next morning, he is willing to come and bring you to the doctor. Only a guy who is serious about you will be that worried!
Well, if you find all these signs all too familiar, it is most likely true that he is serious about you and your relationship. Although he may not have said the three magic words to you yet and have not officially asked you to be his gal, you can be quite assured that he really cares about you. If you like him as well, you can be sure that it will be reciprocated. Just don't take too long to admit how you both feel about each other!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
1) He seeks your opinion in everything from minor decisions to major ones
It could be something as simple as buying a tie to match his shirt. Or major ones like what car he should buy. It shows that he values your opinions and thinks that you have great judgement and insight as well.
2) He wants you to meet his family, friends and everybody else
He is serious in making you part of his social circle and does not see you as just another casual date when he wants you to meet his family.
3) He spends a lot of time together with you
If he is not genuinely interested in you, would he spend time with you rather than go for his favourite soccer match with his buddies?
4) He does not show signs that he is terrified when you mention something happening in a year or two
It shows that he is serious about the relationship he has with you. He can see himself being with you even two years later.
5) He calls you many times a day, but does not admit he misses you
When he calls you, he may find an excuse to do so, like asking you what you are doing currently, finding out what you have eaten for dinner, but never saying the words "I miss hearing your voice, that's why I called".
6) He remembers your favourite food and brings it to you by surprise
You probably casually mentioned that you love the brownie from that café only once, but he remembered and brought it to you without you asking for it. If he is not serious about you, would he have remembered what you say to such detail?
7) He lets you choose the restaurants you want to go and the movies you want to watch
Even if he does not like spicy stuff, but you love curry to bits, he will accompany you and even treat you to a meal at a nice Indian restaurant. How sweet can it get? If he does not treat you seriously, why would he bother to cater to you?
8) He can't wait to tell you what happened in the day
Every night he updates you with how he spent his day, without you asking first. He finds it a joy sharing these intimate details with you. When he hears a new joke, he can't wait to call you immediately and make you laugh.
9) He is willing to share details of his finances with you
The topic of finances can be quite sensitive and is usually not something that is openly shared, even with friends. If he is willing to tell you, he probably treats you more than a casual friend!
10) He rushes to your side upon hearing that you are sick
Even if it is really late at night and he has an important meeting the next morning, he is willing to come and bring you to the doctor. Only a guy who is serious about you will be that worried!
Well, if you find all these signs all too familiar, it is most likely true that he is serious about you and your relationship. Although he may not have said the three magic words to you yet and have not officially asked you to be his gal, you can be quite assured that he really cares about you. If you like him as well, you can be sure that it will be reciprocated. Just don't take too long to admit how you both feel about each other!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
5 Tips On How You Can Dress To Impress Your Date
We all know men are visual creatures. Comparing a plainly dressed woman with a well dressed woman, the latter will definitely look more attractive! Even if you are not the hottest babe in town, you can still be a head-turner with the clothes you wear!
1) Make sure you do not wear clothes that are out of date or too trendy for you
If you have clothes hanging in your wardrobe for the last decade, check if they are very out of date already. If you wear out of date stuff, it gives the guy an impression that you belong to the last era too. Of course, sometimes retro fashion does make a comeback, but if your clothes are nowhere near the current retro style, keep them out of your date's sight.
If you are a woman of mature age, dressing to look like a young adult may actually look strange on you. Keep abreast of the latest fashion trends, but do not overdo it as it may actually backfire if the trendiest look does not suit you at all.
If you are not sure what is good for you, stick to traditional, classic fare. Go to shopping malls; look around at the department that stocks clothing for your age group. You can also ask the salespeople for advice and suggestions too.
2) Wear only clothes that fit nicely on you
Wearing clothes that fit makes a huge difference to how you look! Imagine wearing a loose-fitting tee compared to one that is more fitted. Visually, you will look a lot slimmer in the fitted tee. Sometimes, larger sizes make one look sloppy, so if you have the figure, flaunt it! For bottoms, if you are wearing pants, make sure the bottom hem is not too long such that it is dragging on the ground when you walk. If you wear heels, the perfect length for the bottom hem should end slightly above your heels. If you are short, avoid wearing skirts that are too long. If you are pear shaped, opt for A-line skirts with hems that end below the knee to soften your heavy hips and thighs.
3) Check if your outfit is well-coordinated
Sometimes when we walk along the streets, we can't help but take a second look at people. It is not because they are attractive, but rather they distract us with their mismatched outfit! If you have a two piece outfit, but they can't blend with each other, you will end up looking really weird. Make sure the colors, fabrics and styles of your coordinated outfit can match each other. Also, pay attention to accessories like earrings, scarves, belts and shoes which you might wear with your clothes as well.
4) Dress according to the occasion
If it is a casual outing to the beach, tank-tops, short sleeved cotton tees, shorts and slacks are most comfy and will blend nicely with your outdoor activities. But if the occasion is more formal like dining in an expensive restaurant, take the initiative to dress up. Overdressing is still acceptable socially, but if you turn up under dressed for the occasion, it will embarrass your date and you may never see him again the second time.
5) Make a difference to your outfit with accessories
For ladies, we have so many choices of accessories that we can use to complement our clothes. A nice pair of earrings, bangles or a pretty scarf can add some zest even to a plain outfit. Even the bag we carry and the shoes we wear with our outfit can transform the way we look. But do not overdo the accessories part, keep it to a maximum of three accessories, otherwise you may end up looking like a Christmas tree!
It's true in a certain way that the way you dress can improve the way you look. Complete it with nicely manicured nails, nice smelling hair, and a sweet smelling breath; you will be the most unforgettable date ever!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Monday, August 11, 2008
7 Ways To Look More Attractive To The Opposite Sex
There are many ways you can make yourself more attractive. First and foremost you have to work on your physical appearance! It takes only a few seconds to form a first impression, so how you look to the other person plays a very important part in how he or she feels about you initially.
These are 7 ways to improve your appearance, do not belittle their importance as how you look often comes in an overall package.
1) Get a suitable hair cut
For women, if you are wearing your hair long, it does not mean you can ignore it for years! As it is growing longer, there may be uneven lengths that may make you look untidy. You will be surprised at how a simple trim can do wonders to how you look. Men are usually most attracted to hair that are smooth and silky and long enough for them to run their fingers through.
For men, keeping it short is usually the easiest. If you are not suited for long hair, do not attempt to keep it long as it will only make you look sloppy. If you are balding, you may consider shaving it off totally for a cooler look.
2) Watch your weight
If you have always wanted to lose that extra flab, put it into action now. How good you feel about yourself often rubs off on someone else and makes you seemingly more attractive. Men are often attracted first to women who are slim but have curves at the right proportions. Having a figure of an apple is not going to put you on his radar. Women too, are guilty of drooling over men with six pack abs than those with a pot belly. Watching your weight reflects the fact that you still make an effort to take care of your own body and health and that can give the other person a better impression.
3) Get rid of hair at the wrong places
A man usually doesn’t like a woman to have hair more than he does, except the hair on her head. So if you have unwanted hair on your face, underarms, your legs, etc, do something about it. The same goes for men too, if you have nose hair coming out of your nostrils, it would be a huge distraction to the person you are talking to. These are all part of personal grooming and if left ignored, could appear as a huge turn-off for the opposite sex.
4) Clean fingernails or toenails at an appropriate length
Fingernails that are filthy say a lot about you. You may give the other person an impression that you do not bother about your personal hygiene at all. If you are not sure how to take care of your nails, go for a proper manicure. For women, you can also put on nail polish for a sexier look.
5) Your teeth and your smile
How your teeth look often affects your smile. If you are missing a tooth, consider fixing the gap. It can be quite shocking to see a beautiful person exposing unsightly teeth when they smile or laugh. If you have crooked teeth, you can consider going for orthodontic treatment to correct it while you are young. It is a worthwhile investment to make that really improves how you look!
6) Update your wardrobe
If you have a wardrobe as dated as yourself, it’s time to pick up some new clothes. A wise choice is to get classic and timeless pieces that you can mix and match. Check out fashion magazines and stores for the latest trends, but do not follow them blindly. If in doubt, ask the salespeople for advice on stocking up your new wardrobe.
7) Match your accessories
Accessories like shoes, jewelery, belts, etc, can make a huge difference to what you are wearing, but don’t overdo the bling effect. Too much of these are distracting and a turn-off if they look cheap. Sometimes, less is classy, and having the appropriate piece can make you look like a million bucks.
Trying to impress the opposite sex is often as simple as knowing what works for yourself. When you feel good about how you look, you will naturally exude the charm and attractiveness that you have been looking for.
Authored By:Angela Tay
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Dating Tips - The Pros And Cons Of Online Dating
Internet online dating is not a new fad in the market, but rather in recent years it has evolved into a popular alternative for singles to look for their other half.
There are many reasons why singles, young and old, find joy in meeting new friends through online dating.
Pros of online dating:
1) For the young and single who spends a lot of time at work, online dating provides an opportunity for them to screen and meet someone they might click with. Very often, these young professionals are married to their jobs and do not have the time to meet new friends outside their social circles. Online dating is a quick and easy alternative to get out of their comfort zone and widen their social network.
2) For the mature group, age might be a barrier to knowing new friends. Their social circle and lifestyle would have been quite established and most of their peers would have been married or attached. Online dating gives them an avenue to meet someone close to their age, but probably resides in a different town or city.
3) Online dating involves reading the profiles of others before you decide if you wish to make friends with them. This can save some time as you can filter friends you would like to know based on their age group, interests and other aspects that appeals to you.
4) Online dating profiles also include a picture of the person you are writing to. This is better than a blind date where you have no idea of how the other party even looks like!
5) Shy people find online dating easier to deal with as they might be better with their writing than with their words. Being anonymous initially actually empowers them to say things that they possibly might never have the courage to. These people might have few friends in person, but many admirers on cyberspace!
Cons of online dating:
1) Online dating can get quite addictive, as it is so convenient to log on and find someone new to talk to.
2) Some people join online dating to find short term solutions for their loneliness and boredom. The person on the other end may not be serious in going into a friendship or even relationship with you. You may find yourself being taken for granted only after spending some time corresponding with them.
3) Online profiles only provide you with information and photos that others put about themselves. They might not be truthful in all aspects and you might get an unexpected surprise after you meet them in person.
But still, internet dating is here to stay and it's only going to grow. It's another option one can choose to meet new people, especially if you have exhausted your current social or business circles. Give it a try, and take it as an opportunity to make new friends. Who knows? You might find the love of your life there!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Dating Tips - How To Deal With First Date Jitters
You may have dated before, but it has been quite some time since you last went on a date. Now that you are back in the dating scene, are you feeling first date jitters again?
These are some ways that will help you overcome the fears of going for that first date again.
1) Have a friend set you up to go out with his or her group of friends
Instead of a one to one date, probably you can start off hanging with your friend's friends. At least you won't need to worry about what to say in a bigger group as conversations are usually kept flowing spontaneously. There is no pressure or awkward silence even if you do not speak much. If there is someone who catches your eye, you can then try asking them out personally after a few gatherings. By that time, you won't be total strangers anymore, and both of you will feel more at ease.
2) Engage in phone conversations or at least emails before you meet for the first time
Starting out with emails and proceeding to phone conversations is a good way of knowing each other before you plan for the first date.
3) Keep the first date short and simple
Make it as casual as possible. If you do not like the idea of having to talk too much, catching a movie or going for a bowling game would be quite suitable. If would like to find out more about the other person, a date at a café is relaxing enough to allow both of you to engage in small talk. Plan for a short first date as well. 2 hours is probably enough for you to decide whether you feel comfortable with the other person. At least if you can't wait for the date to end, it will be over in a short while.
4) Learn how to small talk
It takes two hands to clap, so if the conversation is single sided, it could get quite difficult to pass the time. Running out of things to talk about? Try to small talk. You can talk about your hobbies, the things that interest you, and even something that catches your eye at that moment.
It could be that book on the shelf that leads to you sharing what you like to read, etc. But do not plainly recite your entire life's autobiography on the first date; it could bore your date to bits. If your date is the shy and quiet type, probably you can prompt them by asking them some questions about themselves or what they think about a certain issue. Do not stray to a topic too personal like religion, as you may say things that are offending to the other person.
5) Be polite and respectful, smile often and just be yourself
Relax and be yourself. Treat the first date just like any outing with your friends. Be genuine and sincere in your conversations. Smile a lot and have fun!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
These are some ways that will help you overcome the fears of going for that first date again.
1) Have a friend set you up to go out with his or her group of friends
Instead of a one to one date, probably you can start off hanging with your friend's friends. At least you won't need to worry about what to say in a bigger group as conversations are usually kept flowing spontaneously. There is no pressure or awkward silence even if you do not speak much. If there is someone who catches your eye, you can then try asking them out personally after a few gatherings. By that time, you won't be total strangers anymore, and both of you will feel more at ease.
2) Engage in phone conversations or at least emails before you meet for the first time
Starting out with emails and proceeding to phone conversations is a good way of knowing each other before you plan for the first date.
3) Keep the first date short and simple
Make it as casual as possible. If you do not like the idea of having to talk too much, catching a movie or going for a bowling game would be quite suitable. If would like to find out more about the other person, a date at a café is relaxing enough to allow both of you to engage in small talk. Plan for a short first date as well. 2 hours is probably enough for you to decide whether you feel comfortable with the other person. At least if you can't wait for the date to end, it will be over in a short while.
4) Learn how to small talk
It takes two hands to clap, so if the conversation is single sided, it could get quite difficult to pass the time. Running out of things to talk about? Try to small talk. You can talk about your hobbies, the things that interest you, and even something that catches your eye at that moment.
It could be that book on the shelf that leads to you sharing what you like to read, etc. But do not plainly recite your entire life's autobiography on the first date; it could bore your date to bits. If your date is the shy and quiet type, probably you can prompt them by asking them some questions about themselves or what they think about a certain issue. Do not stray to a topic too personal like religion, as you may say things that are offending to the other person.
5) Be polite and respectful, smile often and just be yourself
Relax and be yourself. Treat the first date just like any outing with your friends. Be genuine and sincere in your conversations. Smile a lot and have fun!
Authored By:
Angela Tay
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Our All-Time Favourite Love Quotes
Some famous love quotes of the century...
"There is no remedy for love but to love more." Henry David Thoreau
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." Anonymous
"Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction." Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresisitibly desired."
"Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop." Anonymous
"Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love." Lao Tzu
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." Anonymous
"It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than
not to be able to love at all." William Thackeray
"If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with..." Unknown
"Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile." Franklin P. Jones
"Men always want to be a woman's first love…women like to be a man's last romance." Oscar Wilde
"Love does not dominate; it cultivates." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
"Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love." Leo Buscaglia
"People who are sensible about love are incapable of it." Douglas Yates
"Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. THAT'S relativity." Albert Einstein
Haha. This last one by Einstein is cool.
Which is your favourite love quote? :)
"There is no remedy for love but to love more." Henry David Thoreau
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." Anonymous
"Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction." Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresisitibly desired."
"Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop." Anonymous
"Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love." Lao Tzu
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." Anonymous
"It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than
not to be able to love at all." William Thackeray
"If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with..." Unknown
"Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile." Franklin P. Jones
"Men always want to be a woman's first love…women like to be a man's last romance." Oscar Wilde
"Love does not dominate; it cultivates." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
"Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love." Leo Buscaglia
"People who are sensible about love are incapable of it." Douglas Yates
"Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. THAT'S relativity." Albert Einstein
Haha. This last one by Einstein is cool.
Which is your favourite love quote? :)
Sunday, July 6, 2008
What Is Love?
Falling in love is a complicated process. It is usually a natural progression through four stages: attraction, connection, intimacy and commitment.
When you meet someone new and you are physically attracted to him or her, this is the first hint that love may be in the cards. Of course, this is too premature to determine as you are most likely to be attracted by the overall appearance of the person. What he or she wears and talks all play a part in stirring that emotions in you.
When two people are mutually attracted, it paves the way for the second stage of connection. As they communicate and find themselves exchanging ideas or opinions that they both agree with, there is an amazing connection which brings their relationship to a very comfortable level. Sometimes, the connection is so strong that they can complete what each other wants to say or know what the other party is thinking about.
When both parties are able to connect, the relationship gets to a higher level. The intimacy both shares cannot be easily substituted by someone else. Emotional intimacy is achieved through nonverbal signals, such as prolonged eye contact, incidental touching, self-disclosure (in which you share your true self with another). As both of you reveal more, it makes you feel that you are not alone anymore. When you are happy, you would want to share the good news with the other person. When you are sad, you know there is someone who will lend you a listening ear. The feeling of unity and oneness comes into the picture and you can see a future with the person you are with.
From here the shift into commitment with the other person comes naturally. You feel responsible for him or her in whatever decisions you make about your life and your work. A monogamous relationship does not sound scary to you anymore. Its when you can see yourself spending the rest of your life together with that special someone. It's when you are confident in saying he or she will be your one and only.
Having someone special is important to humans as there is a need to express ourselves emotionally and intellectually. We want someone whom we can share life’s pleasures with and someone who can give us feedback. When two people communicate openly, express feelings and emotions, there is reassurance and hope and connection to a future.
When you meet someone new and you are physically attracted to him or her, this is the first hint that love may be in the cards. Of course, this is too premature to determine as you are most likely to be attracted by the overall appearance of the person. What he or she wears and talks all play a part in stirring that emotions in you.
When two people are mutually attracted, it paves the way for the second stage of connection. As they communicate and find themselves exchanging ideas or opinions that they both agree with, there is an amazing connection which brings their relationship to a very comfortable level. Sometimes, the connection is so strong that they can complete what each other wants to say or know what the other party is thinking about.
When both parties are able to connect, the relationship gets to a higher level. The intimacy both shares cannot be easily substituted by someone else. Emotional intimacy is achieved through nonverbal signals, such as prolonged eye contact, incidental touching, self-disclosure (in which you share your true self with another). As both of you reveal more, it makes you feel that you are not alone anymore. When you are happy, you would want to share the good news with the other person. When you are sad, you know there is someone who will lend you a listening ear. The feeling of unity and oneness comes into the picture and you can see a future with the person you are with.
From here the shift into commitment with the other person comes naturally. You feel responsible for him or her in whatever decisions you make about your life and your work. A monogamous relationship does not sound scary to you anymore. Its when you can see yourself spending the rest of your life together with that special someone. It's when you are confident in saying he or she will be your one and only.
Having someone special is important to humans as there is a need to express ourselves emotionally and intellectually. We want someone whom we can share life’s pleasures with and someone who can give us feedback. When two people communicate openly, express feelings and emotions, there is reassurance and hope and connection to a future.
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