Dating Tips - How To Deal With First Date Jitters

You may have dated before, but it has been quite some time since you last went on a date. Now that you are back in the dating scene, are you feeling first date jitters again?

These are some ways that will help you overcome the fears of going for that first date again.

1) Have a friend set you up to go out with his or her group of friends

Instead of a one to one date, probably you can start off hanging with your friend's friends. At least you won't need to worry about what to say in a bigger group as conversations are usually kept flowing spontaneously. There is no pressure or awkward silence even if you do not speak much. If there is someone who catches your eye, you can then try asking them out personally after a few gatherings. By that time, you won't be total strangers anymore, and both of you will feel more at ease.

2) Engage in phone conversations or at least emails before you meet for the first time

Starting out with emails and proceeding to phone conversations is a good way of knowing each other before you plan for the first date.

3) Keep the first date short and simple

Make it as casual as possible. If you do not like the idea of having to talk too much, catching a movie or going for a bowling game would be quite suitable. If would like to find out more about the other person, a date at a café is relaxing enough to allow both of you to engage in small talk. Plan for a short first date as well. 2 hours is probably enough for you to decide whether you feel comfortable with the other person. At least if you can't wait for the date to end, it will be over in a short while.

4) Learn how to small talk

It takes two hands to clap, so if the conversation is single sided, it could get quite difficult to pass the time. Running out of things to talk about? Try to small talk. You can talk about your hobbies, the things that interest you, and even something that catches your eye at that moment.

It could be that book on the shelf that leads to you sharing what you like to read, etc. But do not plainly recite your entire life's autobiography on the first date; it could bore your date to bits. If your date is the shy and quiet type, probably you can prompt them by asking them some questions about themselves or what they think about a certain issue. Do not stray to a topic too personal like religion, as you may say things that are offending to the other person.

5) Be polite and respectful, smile often and just be yourself

Relax and be yourself. Treat the first date just like any outing with your friends. Be genuine and sincere in your conversations. Smile a lot and have fun!

Authored By:
Angela Tay