Top 5 Fears That Are Stopping Men And Women From Getting Back Into The Dating Scene

For whatever reasons that you may be single again, it could be a long time since you last went out with someone new. Deep down, are these the fears that you might be facing and keeping to yourself?

#1 I just can't do it. I'll never meet someone again.

This is absolutely not true. There are many people out there looking for a connection as well. It largely depends on whether you take the initiative to get out and make know someone new. Do give yourself a chance as well as giving others a chance of knowing you. Just make sure you have given yourself enough time to heal before you go back out there, if you just had a break up. An unsuccessful relationship does not mean you will not be able to find someone again. It can be scary at first at meeting new people, but you should be much wiser and experienced now and should be able to avoid the mistakes you have made in the last relationship.

#2 I don't know where I can meet new people

If you have a small social circle, you can consider online dating to get out of your comfort zone. Especially if you are always busy at work or always hanging around with the same group of friends where everyone eligible is attached or married. Joining new hobby or networking groups can also give you the chance of meeting somebody new. Be proactive. If you meet someone whom you might be interested in, create your own chances of knowing them instead of playing the waiting game.

#3 I fear being rejected. I also fear having to reject someone I don't fancy.

Rejection is part and parcel of dating. Just remember that most of the time, it is not personal, it's just life's selection process! If you are rejected, it could be a blessing in disguise as the person you are keen on may not be the best for you. If you move on graciously, you might find someone who is more worthy of your love instead of hovering around the person trying to change his mind. If you have to reject someone, it could be a sticky issue to deal with in the beginning, but you are actually releasing this person to someone else who could appreciate him or her more. You are actually doing them a favour in telling them not to waste any more time or efforts on you.

#4 Women are only looking out for young hunks

Women are in the search for a relationship with men who can click with them. Looks does matter in the initial phase, but over time women want someone whom they can count on long term. Sometimes, you may find it strange why women would pick a middle-aged pot-bellied man over a handsome young hunk. It all boils down to how women feel comfortable and secure in your company. Women are also usually more attracted to average looking men who are financially stable and dependable, than good looking men who are always in and out of jobs.

#5 Men are only dating the young and hot babes

Men date all sorts of women, young and old, as long as they are attractive enough for them. Sometimes men like mature ladies for their intelligence, independence and their sex appeal. Some young girls of their age may be too childish and whiny to their liking. As long as a woman is attractive and well groomed, age is not a big issue with most men. What matters more is how well they can communicate and how well they can relate to you.

If you are hoarding these fears deep down in your heart, it's time you find ways of overcoming them. Only when you are able to release these fears, you are able to embrace the journey of getting back into the dating scene again. Give yourself a second chance of finding the special love of your life!

Authored By:
Angela Tay